Using humor as a positive coping mechanism to accept our flaws and blunders builds our self-esteem. When we learn how to separate who we are from what we do, we can laugh about the silly things we do without making fun of who we are.
The key word is using positive, playful humor, not putdowns, ridicule or negative sarcasm. After my brain injury, the planning and preparation of meals was difficult, and exhausting. The failed attempts were hard on my self-esteem. Joking about my loss of cooking ability, helped me to accept myself, as I am. I adopted a saying, “I used to be a good cook. Now, it’s good if I cook!”